A person can get another relationship, but not another “each other”.
It’s just a few days until the annual celebration of romance is before us. Will you choose to approach this Valentine’s Day intentionally? Or not?
Will you see the day as an opportunity to show your Valentine that they are your priority? Or not?
Will you choose to spend just a little time to make this Valentine’s Day not necessarily extraordinary, just not ordinary? Or not?
Perhaps you’ll start the day by softly sweeping the hair from their brow and presenting them with the perfect cup of morning coffee, a paper and your shared excitement about the day.
Mid-day could be a simple phone call to remind each of you of the love you share.
Evening plans can be as elaborate or as simple as you choose. Without a lot of fuss, you could invite your Valentine to a cozy fireside dinner or a “carpet picnic” in your living room. Prepare your own specialty. Or opt for takeout at your local market and tell “Deli- guy” that it’s your night to cook!
Will the dress code for your soiree be evening gown and “tails”, or provocative “PJ’s’?
As the evening progresses, will you test the waters by lighting candles and drawing a fragrant, bubbly bath for the two of you? Or play a love song and slow dance in the foyer? Maybe a soothing massage is more your style.
I offer these ideas just to ignite your own imagination. It’s all very affordable. On this special day, face it, can you afford not to woo the one you love?
If you are considering a Valentines gift that will express your love to “your love” not only on Valentines Day but everyday, check out the Pocket Heart and Loving Heart Pin for men and Loving Heart necklaces, earrings and charms for women.
My passion, my company and my line of jewelry are about helping people express their love to the special people in their life.
This Valentine’s Day will you treat your Valentine like “the one of a kind” they really are?
– by Jean Schnaak, Designer
The Loving Heart Collection by Jean Schnaak®
It’s just a few days until the annual celebration of romance is before us. Will you choose to approach this Valentine’s Day intentionally? Or not?
Will you see the day as an opportunity to show your Valentine that they are your priority? Or not?
Will you choose to spend just a little time to make this Valentine’s Day not necessarily extraordinary, just not ordinary? Or not?
Grand gestures won’t carve your name on their heart nearly as much as your tenderness and thoughtfulness will.
From my own experience, wooing starts best in the bloom of the day, followed by one or two surprise whispers of love as Valentine’s Day fully blossoms. As you design the day, imagine how you’d like Valentine’s Day….and the night to unfold.Perhaps you’ll start the day by softly sweeping the hair from their brow and presenting them with the perfect cup of morning coffee, a paper and your shared excitement about the day.
Mid-day could be a simple phone call to remind each of you of the love you share.
Evening plans can be as elaborate or as simple as you choose. Without a lot of fuss, you could invite your Valentine to a cozy fireside dinner or a “carpet picnic” in your living room. Prepare your own specialty. Or opt for takeout at your local market and tell “Deli- guy” that it’s your night to cook!
Will the dress code for your soiree be evening gown and “tails”, or provocative “PJ’s’?
As the evening progresses, will you test the waters by lighting candles and drawing a fragrant, bubbly bath for the two of you? Or play a love song and slow dance in the foyer? Maybe a soothing massage is more your style.
I offer these ideas just to ignite your own imagination. It’s all very affordable. On this special day, face it, can you afford not to woo the one you love?
If you are considering a Valentines gift that will express your love to “your love” not only on Valentines Day but everyday, check out the Pocket Heart and Loving Heart Pin for men and Loving Heart necklaces, earrings and charms for women.
My passion, my company and my line of jewelry are about helping people express their love to the special people in their life.
This Valentine’s Day will you treat your Valentine like “the one of a kind” they really are?
– by Jean Schnaak, Designer
The Loving Heart Collection by Jean Schnaak®
Matters of the Heart
June 24th, 2009 In these busy times this author believes that where we live, how we live and what we do all pale in comparison to how we express our love to others.To love intentionally, planning will be required. Swirling around in my head have been some thoughts as to how to go about this.
To better express my love for the people who are important to me, I need to identify who they are and rank them. That sounds a little cut and dry, but think about it – don’t you have unspoken rankings of people you know?
Consider if you will, those to whom you give Christmas cards versus Christmas gifts; birthday cards (calls, emails, texts, Facebook posts) versus birthday presents. How about your guest lists for holiday parties, cookouts, weddings and so on? Whether written or simply in our minds, these lists imply a sort of value ranking of our relationships. Don’t they?
As I continue my pursuit to love more intentionally those who are most important to me, I will take a look at how often and through what means these love connections have taken place over the past several years. Have our communications occurred weekly, monthly, quarterly, yearly or beyond? Has the quality of the relationship strengthened or weakened over time? Is the relationship heading in the direction that is best for all concerned?
There are friends I feel compelled to talk with every two to three weeks. It’s like I need a friend fix. These close friends and I make time for each other – to grab a cup of coffee and visit over the phone for a bit. To talk with them is like a “shot in the arm.” (Just to be clear for anyone who did not grow up hearing this expression, a “shot in the arm” is intended as something good for a person, not a painful experience.)
Then there are other friends with whom I may connect every six months or yearly as we exchange Christmas cards and family highlights of the past year. (Perhaps the Christmas cards with family update letters say a lot about peoples’ desire to stay connected regardless of these busy lives we lead.) Anyway, it seems there is a rhythm to these love connections – something to do with frequency, mode of connection and desire.
As I review each relationship and consider my desire for this relationship the future, I’ll rank each one. With only so much time to spend with those I love, I must define the optimal love connection for each person who is important to me. Then again, simply not forgetting a dear friend’s birthday or a nephew’s little league game would be a great improvement.
To do anything well, I must be deliberate. By July 15th, I intend to do the following:
- Identify the people with whom I wish to have a lasting relationship,
- Define my ranking system based on moving forward in time and my level of commitment to the relationship,
- Define frequency of contact per relationship (daily, weekly, monthly, yearly)
- Identify options for connecting (outings, phone, email, Facebook, special occasions, holidays, etc) and
- MOST OF ALL write it all down.
You may be wondering what prompted these grand plans of mine. If so let me shed a bit of light as to my why. My adult life has involved relocating at least ten times, accruing lovely friends, colleagues and lots of neighbors along the way. Stretched over time and many miles, I have a pretty long list of people that have been a part of my life. Within the past year, I relocated within 25 miles of where I was raised. Locally, I have many relatives and school mates whom I’ve not lived near since the seventies. It is taking time for me to adjust to being back home.
With this transition, I want to reflect on who I am in relation to all those who are a part of me. There are folks that I never want to let time or good intentions lead to our drifting apart.
Despite E-mail, Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, etc my top of the mind approach to staying connected, I’m afraid will only become more tedious as time goes on.
To embrace my relationships with the people who are the very fabric of my life, I think a system will help.
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